What I Want In A Man Besides Two Legs, Two Arms, A Head and A Torso

 

A stylish, creative, intelligent man to share my life and dreams with and who can be my friend and lover. He is aesthetically hip and prefers a contemporary living environment. He may have ideas of moving out of Southern California to the San Francisco area. He will be 5'5" to 5'9" with a medium build. He's not in perfect shape, but lives a healthy lifestyle. His looks are average to moderately attractive and he dresses just a little on the trendy to eclectic side, wearing mostly dark colors. He is affectionate and well mannered.

Someone happy with himself and his life and looking to share that happiness. Someone ALIVE and present and open to life's possibilities. Someone who cares about what's going on in the world. Someone who is consistent in his words and deeds. Someone true to their word. Someone who is emotionally brave . . .feels little reservation in facing what would cause him fear . . . rather seeking to explore it and dispel it. Someone tender yet strong; courageous yet admits to weaknesses; reserved yet playful.

I'm looking for that conspiratorial, private club for two sort of relationship where you know what makes the other person laugh . . . That mutually protective thing which is rare but wonderful when it happens, and worth nurturing when it does. I'm looking for a man who understands what living a life that in independent yet interdependent means. I'm looking for someone who wants to explore what life has to offer, to travel far and near, to read together (especially Sunday mornings), to share our minds and bodies and to laugh so hard that milk comes out our nostrils!

He loves experiencing life, learning and growing. He is eager to try new things. He has a fond appreciation for the arts and enjoys exposure to them regularly. He begins and ends his day with music playing. His tastes run on the eclectic side. He peruses local publications searching for new adventures to explore. He relishes the whole gamut of films - foreign, silent, art, SCI-FI, romance, and adventure. His cultural activities are evenly balanced with physical endeavors out of doors and in his home. He likes to get away from the city for hiking, long car rides, and sunshine. For a casual, mindless time around town he likes to ride bikes, walk in the rain or search  for treasures in used book stores and thrift shops. He likes spending time at home partaking in quiet evenings reading, playing board games, hacking on the computer, cooking - sometimes together, sometimes alone. He is just as comfortable at a fine restaurant as at a dive, with a preference for venues without pretension. He likes socializing with friends and having small dinner parties. He has a group of friends that he admires and adores, but he can't wait to get home to me!

He is a passionate and spiritual man who is honest to a fault. He has a respect for protecting the environment and believes in working towards a peaceful existence for all. His politics lean  towards the left but his feelings on family values run very traditional. He looks forward to spending time with his friends and family. He loves holidays and being part of a family unit. He is sensitive and not afraid of honesty. He is confident in his feelings and can express them verbally and physically. He desires romance as much as I and loves to kiss for hours. He must be an intuitive kisser. He's learned how to laugh at himself. He loves laughing in general. He may be a bit eccentric.

". . . a defector from the petty wars that shell shock love away." He is tired of the games of the casual superficial dating regime and wants one woman to grow old with. He is looking for someone to rock on the porch with when too old to travel to far off lands. He understands the importance of respect and compromise in a relationship. He's willing to spend the time communicating to keep a relationship healthy. Even though he may not like everything about me, he accepts me and loves me for who I am. He understands a certain amount of independence is important in a relationship and that spending time with our friends separately can be stimulating and healthy for our relationship. He can be  the selfless person required to be a part of a relationship.  A cat lover would be a real plus!

And if it's okay to dream big . . . I would like to build a home together with special rooms: a quiet library with lots of books and a comfortable sofa to read them on and enormous tropical plants; a studio for me to do my artwork in with incredible light and a nice sound system; a porch to enjoy our coffee on Sunday mornings. Outdoors we'd have a heavily landscaped secluded yard with waterfalls and a koi pond to take us away from the intensities of the city.

I'm looking for my fairy godmother to come and  make my dreams come true . . . we're never too old to dream!